Wednesday, March 28, 2018


Triggers--we all have them, they are the people, words, events, places, and objects that bring a visceral reaction to us. In the best case scenarios we learn to stay away from or deal with these triggers so we are not enflamed, but sometimes we may not even know a trigger exists for us until we've reacted a few times to it.

What do we do about these triggers?

Of course, I think it's best to understand the triggers and know why they occur, but sadly that's not always possible. Sometimes we are not privy to the information that demonstrates why a trigger is a trigger, and sometimes it just takes a lot of time to figure it out.

So what do we do then?

We can acknowledge the trigger with words such as, "Every time I visit this _____, I am alarmed and that happens because my experience with _______ over time has been ______________. I can't change it and I may not even understand it now, but the truth is, it happens and I have to deal with it."

Some triggers reveal much deeper pain, hurt, injustice, and events--those triggers may eventually spur a police report or law suit, but in general, our triggers are mostly dealt with by understanding that they will occur and either dealing with them or avoiding them. Onward.