The pleaser changes words, reactions, and actions to please. The pleaser has little credibility since they say and do what they think others want to hear or see rather than sticking with their beliefs or convictions.
The pleaser says nice things even if those words are not honest, and the pleaser's words and actions are often hollow since they have no substance.
It's difficult to stand up and speak out with your convictions, beliefs, and ideas in mind. In many cases, it's much easier to be a pleaser, but in the end, a focus on pleasing alone leaves one empty and mostly unsupported. People catch on to that "pleasing nature" when they hear the individual change their words depending on who is in the room and what's popular at the moment. We are all "pleasers" from one time to another, and we choose that path for all kinds of reasons.
Though, while to speak or act to please only does not build good character, good character does rely on a pleasing nature. That means that you can be pleasant when you disagree, debate, or question--you may be pleasing and truthful at the same time. To be pleasing does not mean that you use empty compliments or false statements, but instead that you see the person first and the problem second--you treat each individual with respect and reverence while also demonstrating respect and reverence for your own point of view, experience, and choices.
Of course a pleasing nature includes good listening, honesty, and an open mind. To be pleasing and honest means you're willing to change your mind or actions if convinced that's best too. None of us know it all.
In summary, it's best not to be a pleaser, but it's positive to be pleasing. There's an important difference here, one we all need to be mindful of.
